And, growing into his gay identity has meant refusing to hold standards put upon him by his own community. Gabe told me that being big, gay and Asian has meant dealing with all of his identities and their different cultural perceptions of being overweight. Gabe, a Wisconsin resident and Midwesterner since birth, said growing up and entering the gay community meant learning quickly that there are schema for acceptable, normal bodies: the cis hairless twink, the sorta-hairy hunk or the gym bunny. And, like me, his journey to the shirtless selfie was a lifelong one. recently sent his first shirtless sext, too.
